A while back I decided it was time to sell our house.  God didn’t want us to live in an unfinished house with a mortgage over our heads.  I brought this to my husband and said it was time to simplify our lives.  We started looking for property.  We found some real fixer-uppers, which appears to be the kind we are attracted to.  We started to talk about it together, and I started throwing up roadblocks to my own ideas.  They were starting to scare me.   Richie invited me to a deeper level of engagement as he helped me to identify that I was speaking out of both sides of my mouth. As I continued to engage and process this fear that was rising in me, we realized the incongruence between what I was saying and how I was feeling. When it came down to it, my mouth was spouting godly platitudes about living simpler, which were true. However, the posture of my heart was one of fear that God was not going to provide for us in our current situation. As I got to the place of being able to make an honest assessment about the posture of my heart, I could speak truth to my fear. I rehearsed what God has done for us just in regards to our house. He led us to a beautiful piece of property that we use to serve others. He brought us miracle upon miracle so that we could move into this house. He has provided for us in unasked for ways.  I can also claim what is true biblically–that He is the giver of good gifts, and is faithful to complete the work He starts. Now I don’t know if He’s going to finish the good work of the house, or just finish the good work in me, or perhaps both. But I was reminded that I can rest in His good purposes for me. That assurance freed me from the feelings of powerlessness I was having. The fear and anxiety dissipated.

A few months ago I had the enormous realization that God is always working for my good. Not that he ordains my pain, but that He is always working for my good. He is always working for my children’s and spouse’s good as well. That means that even if I don’t like my circumstances, or don’t want to face them, I can rest in the truth that His character is good and He is working for my good. Even if I don’t like something, the deeper truth that encompasses all of my circumstances is that He is working for my good.  As David puts it in Ps. 42 – Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. 

Friend, no matter where you are and what you are experiencing in your marriage or other relationships, God is working for your good.  I invite you to claim His promises today.  Ask your spouse to join you.  What scriptures apply to your situation?  Speak them out loud.  What has God done for you in the past?  Claim it again.  God is faithful and He is alive!


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